If you are feeling overwhelmed, drained, or constantly tired, you are not alone. I have been there, and we often find ourselves experiencing periods where we lack motivation, feel more tired than normal, procrastinate, or just can’t be bothered, and label ourselves as ‘lazy’.  

A key challenge in those of us who experience dysphoria (depression, anxiety, or agitation), is our difficulty and capacity in maintaining day-to-day memories and concentration. Dysphoria and clinical depression both have defining features which are associated with negative, mood-congruent information which can impair our ability to function in our external environment through our day. We may experience loss of productivity, a slower processing speed and find it more challenging to recall information which can affect our working memory capacity (the speed in which we think and make decisions). So for those of us who suffer with anxiety, depression or agitation on a daily basis can struggle with goal-related tasks, recall of information and attention deficit. 

Therefore, if we are unable to remove negative thoughts & feelings from the focus of our attention this decreases our working memory capacity (like a computer’s buffering wheel) and significantly hinder the progress we can make in a day. Unfortunately, the longer we experience such negative thoughts and feelings, the longer our short-term and long-term working memory is affected which can lead to further exhaustion and burnout while we work in overdrive to process, store, update or switch between different functioning systems for familiar uncomplicated daily tasks. 

Anxiety and depression are profound experiences that can envelop us in a fog of despair, making it challenging to see beyond the darkness. The weight on our shoulders may seem unbearable, but please remember that we possess an inner strength that can triumph over any adversity. It is precisely during these moments of deep despair that often the seeds of resilience are sown. 

Whether you want to use the term psychologist, psychotherapist or coach, whichever makes you feel more comfortable in helping to tackle the relationship with yourself and others I am an online relationship therapist which can help you understand behaviours which may be effecting your marriage, relationship or dating habits. 

Acknowledging Our Feelings 

The first step toward healing is acknowledging the validity of our feelings. Anxiety and depression are not signs of weakness but indications that we have struggled alone with the complexities of life for to long without proper help and support. Understand that it is okay to feel the way we do and that our emotions are deserving of love and attention. It is important to give ourselves permission to be vulnerable and accept the support of those around us. 

Embracing Self-Care 

Nurturing our body, mind, and spirit is essential during our transformative journey. We should incorporate self-care practices into our daily routine, such as exercise, proper nutrition, and sufficient rest. Engage in activities that bring us joy, whether it be painting, writing, or simply taking a walk in nature. Cultivate mindfulness and explore meditation or deep-breathing exercises to calm your mind and reconnect with the present moment. 

Building a Supportive Network 

It’s important to surround ourselves with individuals who uplift and understand us. Sharing our journey with others who empathize can provide a sense of validation, reminding us that you are not alone. Its important to open up to our loved ones, expressing our needs and allowing them to lend a helping hand. Remember, true strength lies in vulnerability and connection. 

Embracing Positive Coping Mechanisms 

In moments of despair, it is tempting to turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Instead, we should consciously choose positive outlets for our emotions. Engage in journaling, art therapy, or playing a musical instrument as a means of self-expression. We should engross ourselves in literature or uplifting podcasts that inspire and offer solace. Integrate activities that foster gratitude, such as creating a gratitude journal or practicing daily affirmations. 

Redefining Our Success 

Society often places great emphasis on external markers of success, such as wealth, prestige, and achievements. However, it is crucial to redefine success on our own terms. We should celebrate small victories along our healing journey, acknowledging the progress we make, no matter how small. Remember that healing is not linear, and setbacks are a natural part of the process. Each step forward is a testament to our courage and resilience. 

Our mind is a potent tool. It is important to cultivate a growth mindset that embraces the belief that change is possible. This is harder said than done but we need to challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with affirming and empowering thoughts. We should practice daily self-compassion, speaking to ourselves as we would to a dear friend our loved one in need. Shift our focus to the present moment, grounding ourselves in the beauty that exists within and around us. 

As we heal, it is essential that we reflect on our values and passions. Explore avenues that provide a sense of purpose and fulfilment. Perhaps volunteer for causes close to our heart, engage in acts of kindness, or pursue hobbies that ignite our soul in attempt to slow us down, calm us and reduce the anxiety or negative thoughts and feelings that we might have. Embracing our purpose can infuse our life with newfound meaning and joy. 

As you walk this path, always remember that you are not alone. You are a beacon of light, and even during the darkest times, your flame will shine bright once again. It may be filled with ups and downs, but trust that the challenges you face are catalysts for growth and transformation. Embrace the lessons, celebrate your progress, and never forget the innate strength that resides within you. 

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Best wishes, 

Charlie. 

Psychologist, Therapist, Coach based in Dubai providing global online therapy to those in need.   

We don’t need to hurt. 

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