You Found Out They Cheated… Now What?

Here is what I shared on Dubai Eye Radio about infidelity, trust, and relationship recovery…

If you’ve just found out your partner cheated, your whole world probably feels upside down.

You might be asking:

• Was any of it real?

• What did I miss?

• How do I move forward from this?

I see this pain up close in my therapy practice every day and I’ve lived it too.
It’s the kind of heartbreak that goes deeper than just the relationship. It impacts your self-worth, your nervous system, your sense of safety.

Recently, I joined Afternoons with Helen Farmer on Dubai Eye 103.8 to talk about something many avoid but too many live through: Cheating in relationships, what it looks like, why it happens, and how therapy can actually help.

👉 Click here to listen to the full segment – us at 21:34

What Counts as Cheating in Today’s World?

This is one of the biggest questions I get,
“Is flirting cheating?”
“Is swiping on dating apps still betrayal if there’s no physical touch?”

The truth is, emotional cheating, digital infidelity, and secret conversations can damage trust just as much as a physical affair.
Sometimes more.

We talked about:

• DM’ing an ex behind your partner’s back

• Secretly watching adult content and interacting with creators

• Hidden dating profiles “just to look”

• Overly intimate friendships outside the partnership

If you’re asking yourself “Was this cheating?”, you probably already feel that emotional boundary was crossed.

This is where therapy after cheating can help bring clarity.
You don’t need to carry the confusion alone.

Why Do People Cheat? Two Core Patterns…

In the interview, we discussed a crucial truth; cheating isn’t always the cause, it’s often the ‘symptom’.

1. Sometimes, cheating happens because the relationship is quietly falling apart.
   There’s distance. Disconnection. Unspoken needs. Over time, one partner seeks emotional or physical intimacy elsewhere, not as a plan, but as a form of escape.
   This doesn’t make it okay. But it helps us understand why.

2. Other times, cheating is about the person themselves.
   They might be acting from unprocessed trauma, avoidant attachment patterns, or low self-worth.
   They’re not cheating because of you.
   They’re cheating because of something within them they haven’t faced yet.

This is where a relationship betrayal therapist comes in. 
To help you stop internalising their actions as your failure.
To guide you through the trauma of infidelity.
To help you rebuild your boundaries and sense of self.

What Therapy After Cheating Actually Looks Like

After discovering betrayal, most people feel stuck in two places at once:

• Wanting answers

• Feeling ashamed for still caring

You might be caught in the loop of:

• Checking their phone

• Replaying conversations

• Blaming yourself for missing the signs

• Worrying if you’ll ever trust again

This is relationship trauma. And it’s heavy. But you do not have to carry it alone.

Working with a therapist can help you:

• Understand the real reasons why people cheat

• Process the emotional and psychological impact of betrayal

• Set healthy relationship boundaries going forward

• Rebuild your trust in yourself

Whether you want to stay or leave the relationship, therapy after cheating gives you a safe place to unpack the chaos and start rebuilding your inner calm.

Rebuilding Trust After Cheating Starts With You

You don’t have to have all the answers right now.
But you can take one step forward.

Clarity. Calm. Closure. They all start when you begin to focus on what you need to feel safe again.

I’ve helped countless clients move through this pain and come out stronger, clearer, and more secure on the other side.

You are not broken.
You are not to blame.
You are not alone.

If Your Ready to Start Making Sense of the Mess…

And this post hit close to home, listen in on the full conversation here:
👉 Click to play the radio interview

And when you’re ready to take the next step, I offer online therapy sessions that focus on cheating recovery, infidelity support, and rebuilding emotional safety after betrayal.

You deserve peace. You deserve truth. And you deserve real love.

Let’s get you back to that place, together.

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