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When a Relationship Ends, It’s Not Just the Partnership You Lose. You lose the version of yourself you were in that relationship. You lose a shared future, a daily rhythm, a sense of certainty. You might even lose your voice in the aftermath.

Whether it’s a divorce, a long-term breakup, or the fallout of a toxic relationship, the pain isn’t just emotional, it’s physical, mental, spiritual.

You might be…
  • Spinning in overthinking, “Was it my fault?”
  • Replaying old conversations or reading back through messages
  • Holding back tears in public, but falling apart behind closed doors
  • Doubting your worth, your instincts, or your ability to ever trust again
  • Feeling guilty for missing someone who also hurt you

Or maybe, you’re not sad at all. You’re numb. You’re shut down. You’re tired of people asking how you are.

This Is Grief. And It Deserves Space.

We don’t talk enough about how breakups and divorce mirror grief, because they are grief. And yet, unlike death, there’s no ritual, no clear path, and no social script for what to do. You’re left to figure it out alone, often with more self-blame than support.

I’m Charlie, a psychologist and online therapist who works with people navigating the messier, unspoken side of relationship endings. My approach is casual over clinical, and this work is less about “fixing” and more about understanding…

Why you can’t stop thinking about them, even if the relationship was unhealthy

Why you feel emotionally all over the place, or completely shut down

Why it’s so hard to move forward when your nervous system is still in survival mode

Why you keep attracting the same kind of partners, and how to stop

This is about giving you something now, in this raw, confusing moment.

Download the Free SOS Survival Kit

I’ve created a free guide with the top 10 strategies I use with clients who are going through heartbreak, divorce, or separation.

It’s not full of clichés. It won’t tell you to “just love yourself” or “move on.”

Instead, it gives you:
✔ Tools to soothe emotional overwhelm and nervous system burnout
✔ Insights into attachment patterns and why it hurts so much
✔ Gentle reminders when your self-talk turns cruel
✔ Permission to slow down and stop performing “okay”
✔ A sense of structure when everything feels chaotic

You Are Not Too Much. You Are Not Behind. You Are Not Alone.

There’s a reason this hurts so deeply. And there’s a reason it can feel like your identity has been split in half. But you don’t have to figure this out alone.

I work with people who are:

  • Leaving a long-term relationship after years of trying
  • Struggling with the shame and stigma of divorce
  • Rebuilding after an emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partner
  • Waking up from people-pleasing patterns and trying to reclaim their voice
  • Realising they never learned how to do relationships differently

Online Therapy Can Support This Unfolding.

I work with individuals (and couples) to unpack the relational patterns that brought them here, and gently build something new.

But before that… you just need space to land. Space to breathe.

 

Download the Free Guide: SOS Survival Kit for Divorce, Breakups & Separation

Because moving on isn’t about pretending it didn’t matter.
It’s about remembering you do.

Download the Free Guide

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this guide just for divorce, or does it help with all breakups?

It’s for any kind of relationship ending. Whether you were married, dating, living together, or coming out of a situationship, the emotional impact matters, and the tools in the SOS guide apply across all of it.


I feel ashamed for still being stuck, will this help?

Absolutely. This guide was created for people who feel like they “should be over it by now” but aren’t. There’s no timeline. There’s just what you feel, and what you need. And this is a safe place to start meeting those needs.


Can this help if I was in a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship?

Yes. If you’re untangling the effects of emotional manipulation, control, or narcissistic abuse, this guide will help you understand the trauma bond, begin calming your nervous system, and reconnect with your own truth.


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